I will never understand why Nigerian men think women should not have standards or a particular taste in men. I mean, everyone has their taste in food, fashion as well as taste in the opposite sex. An average man has a list of 5 million things his woman must possess: Must cook like Nigella Lawson, must have a stripper alter ego, must twerk like Amber Rose but must be classy like Gabriella Union, must be slim but must have huge bum and breast… I can’t list all 5 million. When a girl like me just wants a guy who can speak English without blowing off the roof with Gbagaun, I have become picky and will be sentenced to remaining single for a long time eh!
The moment you communicate that they are not what you want they flare up like they are some good for everyone pill. I am even going to say the forbidden. It’s even worse for us ‘big girls’, they think because you pack some extra pounds all of a sudden the part of your brain that wants the best for you is deactivated. If it’s by weight why settle for an ignoramus when you can lose some damn weight?
While some girls do not mind marrying a man who’s uncultured and uneducated, who speaks with less than no eloquence and chews with his mouth open but has a fat ass bank account, a big heart, a great smile and probably because another side of this man appeals to them. My point is everyone has the right to be with whomever they want for whatever reason; To each his own.
Generally, I am cool until a guy begins to get rude because I don’t like his weird, not eloquent drunkard self and begins to sound like he’s threatening me: then my people, there is problem. This post is inspired by a personal experience and a phone call I overheard at work.(I don’t go around eves dropping o ths just happened) I heard a girl say no I don’t like you and the guys next question is “why? Am I not handsome enough”?
My own experience was more like; we met at my Bestie’s wedding. I was so busy that when he asked me for my number I gave it so I could get back to my life. Fast forward to Lagos he calls me up and I agree to a date. He arrives smelling like alcohol and we were to order drinks and he asks for a bottle of vodka at this point I’m sure he’s not the one.
At another time, he says I’m too confident and he would like to change me, also said he wants to marry me so he can tame me. I was disgusted but I did not flare up. I simply said lose my number and I deleted his from my phone. This brings me to the event that happened last night.
I receive a whatsapp message and it turns out it was him. I reply out of courtesy and he proceeds to say he’s been thinking and he’s sure he wants to be with me, I reply humbly “saying I’m very sure that you are not the one I want, I know what I want and you are not it, so please go away you will find your person.” Dude said something like “I’m not begging you, don’t ever say such stuff to a man bla bla” I’m sure he knows he’s dead to me after such drama.
My major issue is this: why do men feel like they are every woman’s dream? The fact that you posses a penis do not make you a man it only categorizes you as part of the male specie of humans. Dogs, goats and cats have penis’s too so please slow your roll!
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